Body Shame

Body shame is a pervasive issue that affects individuals across various demographics, influencing self-esteem and overall well-being. It manifests through negative thoughts and feelings about one's physical appearance, often perpetuated by societal standards, media portrayals, and personal experiences.

The roots of body shame can be traced back to a culture that frequently prioritizes certain body types over others. This pressure can lead individuals to feel inadequate, perpetuating a cycle of comparison and self-criticism. It is essential to recognize that body shame does not only impact one’s self-image; it can also lead to serious mental health challenges, including anxiety, depression, and eating disorders.

Overcoming body shame involves cultivating self-compassion and embracing body positivity. This means challenging harmful narratives and acknowledging that everybody is unique and valuable.

Additionally, fostering awareness of the media we consume and surrounding ourselves with diverse representations of beauty can play a critical role in dismantling harmful beliefs. By shifting the focus from appearance to function and health, we can create a more inclusive dialogue about body image.

Embracing oneself fully, imperfections and all, is a powerful step towards healing. It empowers individuals to break free from the shackles of body shame and live authentically, celebrating themselves as they are.

  • I constantly engage in negative self-talk. Criticizing or belittling my own appearance which has become a regular part of my internal dialogue

  • I steer clear of mirrors, photos, or any situation that involves self-reflection due to fear of perceived flaws

  • I find discomfort with intimacy due to feeling self-conscious or anxious about my appearance

  • I feel I am undeserving of a relationship or sex because of the way I look

  • I am frequently obsessing/inspecting specific body parts in attempt to assess my worth

  • My weight has been linked to my self-worth (“I am too heavy” or “I am too thin”)

  • I avoid social situations because of my appearance, especially those that involve changing clothes, swimming, or any activity where my body may feel exposed

  • I find myself relying heavily on external validation from others regarding my appearance

  • I engage in a high amount of sex with multiple different partners as a way to enhance my self-worth

  • I refuse or feel awkward to engage in sex because of my physical appearance

  • I only have sex when the lights are off

  • I experience performance anxiety because I am too focused on my body being perceived positively rather than enjoying the moment

  • During sexual activities I avoid certain positions or settings that make me feel vulnerable or exposed

Do any of these sound familiar?

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