Low or Mismatched Sex Drives

Low or mismatched sex drives can present significant challenges in relationships, often leading to feelings of frustration, confusion, and insecurity among partners. Understanding the complexities behind these disparities is essential for fostering open communication and building a deeper connection.

The most common issues to which couples see sex therapy is low desire. It’s not that one’s is too low, and one’s is too high they are just different. It’s not the differential itself that causes the issue but rather how the couple manages it. Problematic dynamics emerge when partners have different levels of desires, and they believe ones is better than the other

Several factors contribute to differing sex drives, including hormonal fluctuations, stress levels, mental health issues, and lifestyle factors such as sleep and nutrition. In many cases, external pressures from work or family obligations can further exacerbate these issues. Recognizing that a low sex drive is not inherently indicative of a lack of desire for intimacy can help alleviate guilt or shame that one partner may feel.

Ultimately, acknowledging and addressing low or mismatched sex drives requires patience, understanding, and commitment from both partners. With open communication and a willingness to explore underlying issues together, couples can navigate this challenge while strengthening their emotional bond.

1 in 3 couples have concerns with mismatched sex drives and when the issue is not addressed it can undermine the intimacy of the couple which can lead to misunderstanding, frustration, and even infidelity.

  • One partner consistently shows little to no interest in sexual intimacy, while the other desires it more frequently leading to feelings of frustration and inadequacy

  • I feel neglected or rejected due to a lack of sexual intimacy with my partner

  • I feel pushed or obligated to engage in sexual intimacy with my partner

  • Sex has become a “chore” for myself or my partner

  • My partner and I have differing needs when it comes to our sex life

  • Conversations about sex have become infrequent or uncomfortable to have with my partner

  • I often feel like there is something wrong with me because I want sex too much

  • I often feel like there is something wrong with me because I often don’t want sex

  • When my partner distances themselves emotionally it reflects in me having low desire to engage in sex with them as often as we’d like

  • Stress, fatigue, health problems, lack of energy, anxiety, and/or physical discomfort has been a big contribution to my low libido

  • I have a form of resentment towards my partner when it comes to our sex life

  • I have a hard time staying turned on when I am having sex with my partner

  • I have or considered have seeking sexual fulfillment outside of my current relationship

  • One partner is considered to be more “vanilla” and the other more “kinky” which has caused a clash in our sex life

  • My performance anxiety has taken a toll on my sex life

  • Sex can often be painful for me causing me to not want it

  • Our sex life has had a negative impact on our relationship

Do any of these sound familiar?

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As your coach I will work with you in ways to collaboratively establish specific, achievable objectives to work towards in your relationship or sex life. This may involve practical strategies, such as improving communication skills, enhancing emotional intimacy, or exploring sexual desires in a healthy context